“It’s not their job to love you. It’s your job to love them.”

Just saw the trailer for Ricki and the Flash. Loved this one single line; “It really doesn’t matter if the kids love you or not. It’s not their job to love you. It’s your job to love them.”

Describes anyone in my life who has ever turned me away or hurt me for whatever reason, and never understood why I was still there for them. Sometimes in ways bigger than they ever expected. It’s not about second chances. It’s not about playing the fool or “being taken advantage of”…those are constructs generated by pride anyway.

What is love after all? Is it only conditional that I give it upon receiving it? Only conditional based on a relationship status? Well, that’s a bunch of bull pocky, and that is not the definition of love. Love is bigger than status and ego. Love is much more vast and expansive; and much more expanding when it’s truly felt. Ideally, we have situations where you can give and receive it in equal measure….but that doesn’t always happen. Like when your kids or your family do feel distant from you. Does that mean we should love less? Not show up and do the work? Again, bull pocky.

And I’ve said this same thing to those folks who never understood…when I tossed them my car keys with a smile, or showed up in the dead of night to move someone out when no one else showed to help them because they had behaved so badly to folks;

“It doesn’t matter if you love me or not, it’s MY job to love you.”

The other line from the trailer that I loved,

“You brought your guitar.”

“Yeah, just the one.”

LOL. That is SO ME.


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